A blog about me being myself. Expressing my thoughts and feelings, and letting you see what I am like as well.
by Arthur Robin, Ph.D.Wayne State University, Detroit, MI
Indifference will be our demise.
A bit of advice for friends of depressed/anxious/etc. people (not just me, but anyone):
Sometimes, what we need is to be talked through a situation. Not berated, or told to cheer up, or told it’s “not that bad”… but to be helped through some of the practical considerations that may not always be obvious when we’re freaking out or self-hating.
For example, a friend just helped remind me that I could make oatmeal. When I was freaking out at her about how I didn’t have anything I could eat right away, she helped me go through a list of what I had, and figure out what I could cook at my current spoon level. As a result, I was able to eat and feel a little better.
Another example: Some of you remember how, way back in May 2011, I finally reached the transition-or-die breaking point, which physically manifested as me freezing/trembling in the middle of class in front of everybody. I was fortunate, then, to have a school instructor who helped talk me through the situation and who helped create the beginnings of a plan of action for coming out at school. This then snowballed into coming out at work and getting my name change process started, and I’ve been living as my lady self “full-time” ever since.
Notice how there was no minimizing of the situation, no attempts to tell me that I was “blowing things out of proportion” or whatever. It was more, “Okay, let’s look at the practical situation, and see what we can do.” That sort of help can be invaluable to a person as anxiety-prone/depression-prone as I am.
YES. My coping method was developed out of friends taking this approach with me (and so now I do it to myself) and it helps so much better than “think positive” and other kinds of value judgments… I don’t need your opinion at my crisis point I need some solutions!
“Fat acceptance” blogs urging overweight people to shed negative feelings about their body image can lead to healthier diet and exercise choices, a study has found.
The fat acceptance movement, which seeks to foster a support network among overweight people, has inspired a plethora of blogs and web forums such as Corpulent, Fat Heffalump and The Rotund — an online community that’s become known as the “fatosphere”.
In a study published in the journal Qualitative Health Research, researchers from Monash University, the University of New England and the University of Canberra interviewed 44 fatosphere bloggers from Australia, the US and the UK about how their involvement in the movement had changed them.
“There’s been a lot of criticism of the movement that it promotes obesity and encourages people to give up on weight loss and makes their health worse,” said one of the researchers, Dr Samantha Thomas, a Senior Research Fellow at Monash University’s Department of Marketing.
“We saw there was a lot of opinion about the movement but very few people had actually studied it.”
Interviews with the respondents revealed many had experienced feelings of worthlessness, shame, crash diets, cycles of starvation and binge eating and laxative abuse before discovering the fatosphere.
“Having that support and feeling empowered, people slowly found that their health behaviours began to change dramatically. For example, many people suddenly felt confident to do swimming, something they would not have done before,” she said.
“People shifted their focus away from weight loss and more toward health. A lot of people started to take part in physical activity not as a way to lose weight but because they enjoyed it. Instead of pounding it out on the treadmill they start playing with their kids. It’s actually a massive shift in the way they looked at things.”
Shifting the focus away from restricting food and toward listening to the body’s needs could also lead to better food choices, said Dr Thomas.
“There are actually a lot of lessons for public health here,” she said.
“The term fat acceptance is really confronting for people. That’s why we have seen a lot of blame and criticism. Society tells us it’s not OK to be fat for a whole bunch of moral and medical reasons,” she said.
“This study shows that far from promoting obesity and promoting negative health behaviours, the movement is really positive for some people’s health.”
So basically, if fat-bashers actually cared about people’s health (as they so often claim to as an excuse for their intolerance and hatred) then they’d actually support fat acceptance instead of trying to tear body-positive folks down?
Surprise! When you’re not made to feel miserable about yourself, you become more motivated to take care of the self that you have. Who knew?
OHHHH WHAT WAS THAT? WHAT WAS THAT? YOU MEAN SHITTING ON FAT PEOPLE DOESN’T DO A GODDAMN THING POSITIVE FOR THEIR HEALTH? YOU MEAN ALL THE DAMN FEARMONGERING IS BAD FOR HEALTH?
YOU DON’T FUCKING SAY
I have never thought about it in this context
that’s actually really, really creepy.
I once pointed this out to my mother and she just stared at me, in stunned silence for ages.
There will always be a girl who is less sober, less secure, with less friends walking in a darker part of town. I want her safe just as much as I want me safe.
WHY IS THIS BUNNY WEARING A BACKPACK? WHERE IS HE GOING TO GO? WHAT DOES HE HAVE IN THIS BACKPACK?
it’s his 1st day of school wish him luck
this is the best video in the entire planet it made me happy when i was crying and sad
Are you tackling a writing project that isn’t a brand-spanking new novel during Camp NaNoWriMo? Good news! We’re compiling lists of everything we know about nonfiction, editing, and scripts. We revisit editing while it’s fresh in our minds from the “Now What?” Months below:
You get to the part of the novel where you think to yourself, “what now? How can I make it even better?” Well, that’s a sign for the best part to happen—the editing and revision process! Here are resources that can help you edit those inconsistent story lines and cut out those awkward scenes.
The Joys of Editing
- Why Editing Matters… Even If You Never Share Your Novel
- Time to Revise, But How Will I Know If I’m Making It Better, Not Worse?
- On Rewriting & Growing Up
- Revision & Slipping Back Into Your World
- Deductive Editing: Revising Like a Master Detective
The Steps to Editing and Revision
- A 7-Step Guide to Big Picture Revision (With Bonus Checklists!)
- Revising Your Novel: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
- The Big Bad Guide to Novel Revision
- Beginning the Awesome Journey of Revision
- Four Types of Book Editing
- On Building Better Stories and Perseverance
- Reveling with Your Inner Editor on the Revision Playground
- In Your Words: Revision Advice from Young Writers
- Why You Should Throw a Wrench In Your Editing Routine
Keep These In Mind When You Edit
- The 6 Commandments of Starting the Editing Process
- Tips from Revisionland
- Be Kind to Yourself While You Edit
- 3 Ways to Let Your Writing Fly
- What Should You Keep In Mind Before You Begin The Revision Process?
- What to Keep When Editing Requires a Reset
- Revision and Reading Aloud
As long as you have these resources, you’re well on your way to building an awesome book.
I interrupt my frequent unhappy rants about my low self esteem, panic-inducing lifestyle and all the ways fandom craps on itself to bring you ducklings in dresses made of cupcake papers. Ok. You need this. Shut up and accept that you need this.